The Power of Responsibility
Responsibility = Sovereignty
To be sovereign means to have full authority over your life. Having full authority can only be a reality when you take full responsibility.
It is incredibly empowering when we are able to do so. It is, however, not just taking responsibility. It is also carrying that responsibility.
Carrying it means that the responsibility is ingrained in us deeply. In that way, it is not just a result of conscious actions or thoughts but a complete integration and acceptance of responsibility.
Integrated Responsibility = Resilience
The more responsibility is integrated into us, into our daily life, the more solid it becomes. You want it to be solid in you because that is how you build resilience and deal with sudden plot changes in life.
Plot changes typically are:
- Unexpected
- Sudden (because we don't expect it)
- Of significant impact
- Life-changing
So, for example, a plot twist can be about physical loss, like losing health through a severe illness, losing someone you love through death, knowing you are going to die, losing a job, losing a friend, or losing a home.
It can also be about mental loss, like losing a belief that was impacting you profoundly, a view on life, the world, people, yourself, losing a once deeply ingrained faith, hope, or trust, losing safety, or losing control around something fundamental.
Often it is a combination of both of these (physical and mental) that make up the plot twist:
The event, or status quo, portrays a sudden change in your life, resulting in, and from, a significant loss of mental construct(s).
Resilience = Disattachment From Mental Constructs
It's the loss of mental constructs that the mind freaks out over. This loss is always in some way related to a loss of control.
The mind uses constructs to reinforce its reality on us. The more attached we are to any sort of mental reality, whether good or bad, the less resilient we are.
If any mental construct is threatened or dissolving, there are two roads we can take:
- We hold on relentlessly. We may try to re-construct the construct in any way we can so that we don't need to lose that part of our reality. Or, we may form a new construct to replace the old one so that we feel safe and secure again.
- We let the construct dissolve with no need for adaptation or replacement.
The second road is the one that shows and grows resilience. We can choose this road when we are able to only hold fluid mental constructs.
Fluid Mental Constructs Can Only be Held when Responsibility is Integrated
When we only hold fluid mental constructs, we are willing and able to allow our reality to change at any moment, in any direction.
As you may imagine, this is not something you decide to 'do' one day. That is because this holding of fluid mental constructs is not based on willpower. Though willpower certainly helps in the path to fluidity...
If we want to allow our mental constructs to be more fluid in order to become more resilient, gain authority over our lives, and navigate any plot twist that comes our way, we need to integrate responsibility.
To get to an integrated state of responsibility, we can best practice this in everyday life. This way, we increase responsibility bit by bit, both consciously AND subconsciously.
Integration = Conscious and Subconscious Aligned
When we keep showing ourselves, our nervous system, and our mind, we constantly move towards responsibility, then many of the subconscious tools that often trick you into moving away from responsibility and truth start to dissolve.
That is how responsibility gets integrated. There are countless ways to practice this.
For instance, through the way you respond to daily events like:
Your friend says something you don't like.
Are you able to see why you don't like it and where it derives from? Are you taking your responsibility, both to yourself (dealing with the pain or upset) and to the other (dealing with your response, detaching the comment from the meaning you put upon it, not taking it personally)?
What action do you take, and what do you base it on - how do you take responsibility through that?
You feel stressed
Are you able to see why you are stressed? What do you need to do to get a better understanding? What action do you take? Do you blame others or yourself, and are you able to see why? Are you able to release that, or do you need to heal first?
You face a disappointment
Are you able to notice you are disappointed? Do you place all sorts of meanings on it? Why is this? Are you able to see where it's coming from? What belief or hope is being challenged? Can you fully acknowledge that the belief or hope is present? Who are you without this belief or hope? Can you let go of the belief or hope without replacing it with another?
The Key is to be Unconditional
The key to practicing it is to learn how to embody responsibility unconditionally. It can be practiced in everything you face in life. And each time you do so, you get stronger and more resilient. Each time you gain more power over your life.
The more fluid you are, the less impact anything and everything has. Not less impact on your physical reality per se. On the contrary, your physical reality will be everchanging.
You'll just become more comfortable with this happening, so the impact is less in the sense of suffering.
Less suffering does not mean less hardship, though. On the contrary, you may find you'll face a lot of (a lot more) hardship as a result of constantly releasing your perceived reality.
But hardship is very different when there is less suffering. The reason hardship and suffering are not the same has to do with mourning.
Mourning is the Jumping Board
This continuous release of constructs and reality, as a result of taking responsibility, results in entering stages of mourning.
Mourning is one of the final cycles of taking responsibility. You need to mourn over the loss, allow it, and not make it less or more than it is.
Mourning is not the same as suffering when you enter it from a state of responsibility.
The more integrated responsibility is, the faster you'll move through the mourning.
That is because you will be aware of what you are mourning and can use the mourning to integrate the part of you that is healing with the part that can see the whole truth (the unconditionality), the impersonal aspect of what is happening.
This way, you are not staying stuck in mourning from a state of victimhood.
Then the mourning doesn't last, and instead, the mourning becomes a blessing.
The mourning is what guides you to increased freedom, increased unconditionally, continuous revelations, and synchronicities.
Once your system has integrated unconditional responsibility, you can move through the mourning in a day or even in a few hours. Yes, even when your whole world came crashing down. Your entire reality can change instantly at any time.
